community

i'm fired up. here's why.



i have a distinct vision for the kind of community (body of christ) that i want to be a part of, and i have felt for some time now that i might actually be in an environment where i have the opportunity to see that come to fruition. in fact, the conversations that i've been having with people in the last month or two have led me to believe that we are on the precipice of big change.



however, i had a very enlightening conversation last night with a good friend of mine who is not a part of this community but is someone whose opinion i highly respect. she has been trying to break into this community, and invite her fiance who is adamantly against jesus to see what god's love really looks like. and break is the key word here. she has been making an effort, and been getting resistance from key people that i would have expected to be incredibly welcoming if for no other reason than this person is my friend. we have created this shell around us that makes it impossible for others to break into.



and the thing is, they shouldn't have to. the community here that is already established should be thinking of ways to invite and welcome people into that, rather than close people off. because this friend of mine who is not a christian is having all of his preconceived notions about "the church" proven with our behavior. and my good friend who is making an effort with my friends in this community is not having that reciprocated.



as a body of christ, THIS IS NOT OKAY.





there are three crucial elements to the community that i personally want to cultivate. these are three characteristics that i think help develop community, as well as sustain it, and my explanations with these are how i see these terms, and are not necessarily the only things that could be included on this list.



intentional: community does not develop and live on its own. it is up to the people in it to create, develop and sustain it. this means that it is a personal choice for each person involved. community will not work if there are people in it who are unwilling to invest.



authentic: this is relatively broad, and can mean lots of different things, but here's what i'm thinking...community should be a place where people can be exactly who they are, no apologies, no condemnation, no judgment. only love and support. another friend of mine put it this way: it is coming alongside people in their journey. meeting them where they are and loving them in that. (this also relates the the intentional aspect of it, because authenticity cannot happen without intentionality, and people making the choice to love others, and trusting others with who they really are)



challenging: this logically follows from being intentional and authentic. there comes a point after we meet someone where they are at and show them we love them where we then encourage them to grow. this is not forcing people to adhere to our own convictions, but encouraging growth in their own journey with god and themselves, whatever that looks like for them. but i feel that as brothers and sisters in christ, we have a responsibility to each other to love one another enough to not see them stagnate.





i hope we can become a welcoming, inviting, intentional, authentic, and challenging community.

think i'm mistaking you for somebody else

"foolish games"
jewel


i'm writing today having just returned from a short visit home to elk grove. who am i kidding, all my visits to elk grove are short, thank goodness.

anyway, my best friend and a couple good ones drove back to our hometown partially to celebrate a birthday, and partially to reconnect with important things in our past and present lives. overall, the trip was great, and much needed, since i had not been back since christmas, and even then it was a very short visit. i did, however, learn a few things while i was there.

first: i have come a long way from the person that i used to be. it had been almost a year since i've spent time with these people, particularly my family, and i've had a lot of big experiences and adventures since then. i was able to share some of this with them, and it felt good to be able to invite them to know the person that i feel like i'm well on my way to becoming. it was also encouraging to hear positive statements of affirmation from them, recognizing a change.

second: aside from my family, i have come to realize that the support system, and network of friends that i once held so dear is no longer what it used to be. that is okay. i had fun visiting briefly with the few friends that i got to see. but i've come to realize that i've developed the community i've desired here, in seattle. i had hopes in moving up here, desires, and i've seen them come to fruition. that's a good feeling.

third: i get really irritable when i'm exhausted. sorry for that. ;)