community

i'm fired up. here's why.



i have a distinct vision for the kind of community (body of christ) that i want to be a part of, and i have felt for some time now that i might actually be in an environment where i have the opportunity to see that come to fruition. in fact, the conversations that i've been having with people in the last month or two have led me to believe that we are on the precipice of big change.



however, i had a very enlightening conversation last night with a good friend of mine who is not a part of this community but is someone whose opinion i highly respect. she has been trying to break into this community, and invite her fiance who is adamantly against jesus to see what god's love really looks like. and break is the key word here. she has been making an effort, and been getting resistance from key people that i would have expected to be incredibly welcoming if for no other reason than this person is my friend. we have created this shell around us that makes it impossible for others to break into.



and the thing is, they shouldn't have to. the community here that is already established should be thinking of ways to invite and welcome people into that, rather than close people off. because this friend of mine who is not a christian is having all of his preconceived notions about "the church" proven with our behavior. and my good friend who is making an effort with my friends in this community is not having that reciprocated.



as a body of christ, THIS IS NOT OKAY.





there are three crucial elements to the community that i personally want to cultivate. these are three characteristics that i think help develop community, as well as sustain it, and my explanations with these are how i see these terms, and are not necessarily the only things that could be included on this list.



intentional: community does not develop and live on its own. it is up to the people in it to create, develop and sustain it. this means that it is a personal choice for each person involved. community will not work if there are people in it who are unwilling to invest.



authentic: this is relatively broad, and can mean lots of different things, but here's what i'm thinking...community should be a place where people can be exactly who they are, no apologies, no condemnation, no judgment. only love and support. another friend of mine put it this way: it is coming alongside people in their journey. meeting them where they are and loving them in that. (this also relates the the intentional aspect of it, because authenticity cannot happen without intentionality, and people making the choice to love others, and trusting others with who they really are)



challenging: this logically follows from being intentional and authentic. there comes a point after we meet someone where they are at and show them we love them where we then encourage them to grow. this is not forcing people to adhere to our own convictions, but encouraging growth in their own journey with god and themselves, whatever that looks like for them. but i feel that as brothers and sisters in christ, we have a responsibility to each other to love one another enough to not see them stagnate.





i hope we can become a welcoming, inviting, intentional, authentic, and challenging community.

if you want it, come and get it, for crying out loud...the love that i was giving you was never in doubt

"babylon"
david gray

i have been incredibly blessed. the last time i wrote, i was about to embark on a journey to kenya, and now i have returned.

since this adventure, i have been listening to god. i had an amazing time, and i'm still processing what that means for my future. but the thing is, instead of asking god for a clear answer to where i should go next, he is showing me something different. not a different path that i should be on, but rather a new way to live.

my biggest "challenge" on my trip to kenya was being vulnerable. i did not open up to the people there like i could have. not that my trip was anything less than amazing, but this was something that i was aware was going to be a challenge before i left, and i didn't do a very good job of being aware and overcoming it.

since being back, god has been showing me that he is vulnerable, and that i need to be vulnerable with him before i can have a chance at being vulnerable with other people. god loves me unconditionally, sees me as who i am, every detail, and if i can't be vulnerable with him, how can i be vulnerable with fallible humans?

this goes hand in hand with everything that i believe in, and everything that i've wanted for my life in the past year or two. i desire to be intentional in my friendships, to be authentic and real and be who we are right where we are at, in the presence of god. but how am i going to do that without god?!

*lightbulb*

so there it is. there's where i'm at. i'm content with not knowing the answer right this very moment, but i'm also not giving up at pursuing it! if it is not god's will, he will shut the door. and if it is, i am embarking on the path of a lifetime. awesome.


love.

remember abby morgan? wait, is she not funny yet?

i love people.

i am nothing without the people around me. though they may change from time to time, and some are closer than others, i wouldn't be who i am today without the relationships i've been in: good, bad and everything in-between.

with what a powerful impact relationships can have on a person, i have a distinct goal with my relationships. i have an image in my head of the kind of friend that i want to be, and the kind of relationships i want to have.

i want to be intentional: making and continuing to make an effort to maintain relationships with people, even when distance or busy lifestyles keep us apart.

i want to be real: authentic (truefaced, if you will), honest, open with who i am, while at the same time allowing for an environment for other people to be just as real, authentic and honest with me.

i want to be loving: encouraging, uplifting, supportive in order to build people up.

i want to challenge: challenge those around me to be the best that they can be, not settle for complacency, but achieve goals that they have for themselves, and continuously grow as human beings.

i love MY people.